It’s always so nice to see parents seek advice on how to deal with a major milestone in their child’s life. Just like that single father who wants to try to look after his daughter who has just started menstruating!

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A father posted on Reddit asking for tips on how to better support his daughter at such an important time and stage in her life. And when he asked how he could make her feel more comfortable, people came up to her for the best, healthiest advice! It is very heartwarming to read.

And here are all the tips people had to give.

1. Buy her a couple of period panties as well as sanitary towels. You will minimize leakage which will save her some trauma. Also find a good body book (Own your period is a great option for 12 year olds, I recently bought it as a gift). Read it first, then give it to her. Find out which snacks she likes and keep them with you. Always have supplies ready for the next period. They’re not regular at first and she will go through a lot to figure out her cycle. Help her choose a tracking app like Clue to keep an eye on her cycle and symptoms.

– deadly housewife

2. When she physically goes to school, you can get her a small bag that stows her pads and pads in her backpack. Also, I would recommend a heating pad for her when she gets home – they can be a miracle for cramping.

– CMaltz

3. Also buy different sizes of pads. When I was her age, my flow was sometimes so strong that I had to wear pads during the day, but that’s uncomfortable and excessive for lighter days. It’s nice to have a good mix of sizes. Pads with wings are best because they are safer. Hydrogen and cold water remove blood stains. Hot water boils the proteins and sets the stain in place, so don’t wash with hot water until the stain is gone. If she doesn’t have black underwear, get her these because it’s nice not to have to worry about something getting stained. Make sure she knows that tampons are likely to be uncomfortable the first time you use them and she can’t just pop one in to try and take out because the dry removal process hurts like hell. If at any time she needs to see a gynecologist because of her symptoms, please make sure she knows that she is responsible for her own body, even though she is a doctor. The process will be uncomfortable regardless of the gynecologist, but she should feel respected and heard.

– nooneusesbing

4. You should provide her with: perfume-free winged pads, old towels to sleep in at night, spare pants or shorts in her book bag, make sure she has a small bag of supplies in her book bag. If you have a friend or relative who can speak to her or be a good resource, this would be a good idea. But she needs to know that you are her parent and that you are providing the physical resources and emotional work. If she knows she can come to you about something like this, she’ll probably feel good when she comes to you about MOST things. You can also tell her that sometimes inserting a tampon hurts, and when it is dry it will hurt. So she doesn’t worry. Tell her that most people have heavy periods on days 1-3 and that they get easier as the days go on. She should never sleep in an old tampon. As she gets older she can definitely use something like a cup; some like them, some don’t. Also, pain that prevents you from doing any activity is not normal and you need to find a gynecologist. who listens to their story and does not devalue it.

– Horseshoe sand sneaking

5. If something she does about her period causes problems, such as: B. the incorrect disposal of your bandages or blood stains, deal with it as directly and neutrally as possible. Instead of using euphemisms, try to use the right words for things and don’t get angry or visibly disgusted. She is still a kid and will generally still learn how to clean up herself; Don’t treat periods like that gross, unspeakable thing, just let her know it calmly and make sure she knows how to clean herself if necessary.

– BeauteousMaximus

6. “Caring for and holding you“Is a great book that has helped me go through puberty without having to have shameful conversations with my parents. It has a very clear guide on how to use tampons that I found incredibly useful as a beginner.

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7. I would definitely agree with the other posters, pads with wings are a must. Nice body spray because we can get a little worried if we smell and I know when I was in elementary school your daughters were old, smell was a thing especially when someone was bleeding profusely. Spare pants are a must, God knows how many times I’ve messed up at school. Snacks, some chocolate, yogurt, salty snacks and carbohydrates. Make sure there are pain medications, I’ve run out of meds a few times and honestly it has been hell on earth. A heating pad or hot water bottle is also very comforting, and if she likes tea, sipping on it can be very comforting. When she gets her period, it is usually best to sleep. So when she’s at home she can take a nap or watch a nice movie, god knows we can be moody at this time of the day. Usually I just wanted to lie in bed, either watch a movie or just lie down and feel sorry for myself. Lol. You sound like a crazy dad, keep it up.

– Temperamental-Volume-9960

8. Get a cute zippered pencil case and put a few things inside:

1. Multiple pads (with wings)

2. A clean underwear

3. A zippered pocket so that if she bleeds on her underwear, she can put it in

4. Painkillers, if she can have them at school

This goes in her school bag so that if she happens to be at school when she gets her period, she will be prepared. With the utensils in a cute pencil case, she won’t be embarrassed to see it in her hand. Also, get a trash can with a lid for the bathroom that she uses.

– Kiwitechgirl

9. The pads need to be changed frequently – at least every 4 hours. It is important to have a trash can in the bathroom and preferably wet wipes.

– PureOne3

Wet wipes
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10. There is a lot of great practical advice here. One thing I want to add is just to make sure she knows it’s okay to have accidents, especially when trying different products and learning about their specific period biases, such as: B. how much it flows at different times of the week. Also, she shouldn’t make anyone feel bad about her period, because obviously it’s a natural thing and not something to be ashamed of.

– kumaboba

How cute and healthy are these answers?